Ok, me like i said in previous post, im single , im not a playa or nothin' but like any other single person yes i have talked to a few women at the same time. Its called being single duh. But when you play the game(not that its a game but it sounds dope saying game) you also have to take it if it comes at you.There was a girl that i was great friends with, still am alittle but not sure what happen, well kinda i know what happen but thats where the story ends. We were great friends for years, always had a strong attraction for each other, not to add a strong sexual attraction as well. So we started sorta dealin' with each other. One thing we had in common was that, i respected her single'ness, shes pretty as hell, had a flock of dudes that wanted her, some dudes i know she dealt with, and she knew the same was for me, we always would joke about it like "where ya fan club @ etc". So we would get up occasionally, i wont even have to talk to her everyday, just had a dope relationship like that but when we did see each other, whatever happen, happened. Now everybody knew it was this kid, that was on her heelz, i guess they messed around b4 in the past, supposeably he is playing Daddy to her lil one & im actually friends with the dude. She would always tell me how she would diss him all the time, call him just to bring food over, like downplay it soooo much it was ridiculous.
Downplay, i plan to blog about this very soon, so stay tune. So i mean, i really didnt care, i knew my place, i just thought personally she was too good for him anyway to even give him time of day. So we started to fading away i notice she was kinda being distant not because of anything in perticular but you know the busy life sometimes things just fadeaway. So i aint see her no where(clubs,mall etc) never heard from her or nothing, she is in club aim with me but we dont talk, we both got too much pride to worrying why we havent been hittin each other.
So i happen to be around this weekend, late night around 3am to get some food after the club. Im right behind a couple holding hands thinking like "damn she look cute from the back lol" He turned around first "whats poppin son" its the dude...and she turned around...."hey wes, how are you".....i looked in her eyes with the smurk like coolin'...and asked him a couple of random questions and kept it moving. She had the awkward look though, just as much as she use to diss him to me, it was soo funny seeing her with him holding hands though i wish i could of took a pic..
But but but...i have to respect her Game......she still looked cool when she looked me in my eyes, she aint half step or nothing, knowing she been with me, doing this & that..and sometimes this, she was smooth. We're good friends though, so when we start talking again, i cant wait to throw it in her face and laugh...
yeah you gotta respect the game!!!! LOL
ReplyDeletetheres been a couple times where i would be in the same club as a couple of my dudes (single...u know how it be) anyway... i didnt break a sweat...
im the type of girl where i have more guy friends than girl friends so its no biggie to be in the same room with 3 plus of the dudes i used to mess with (not all at the same time tho) through out the months!
yeah i wouldnt have broke a sweat in that situation...i probably woulda called you the next day like wassup!!! lol
im lovin it!!!
ReplyDeleteCan we keep it funky though? I smell a little bullshit. You knew your place but it seemed like you expected a little more. Especially when she started fronton--- aka downplaying shit. She felt the need to lie to you... or DOWNPLAY shit which speaks to her attachment. and you smirked at her ass which speaks to yours. Or am I taking it too far. It just seems by some of the words here adn there... It felt like little pins. You know... nothing to lose sleep over... but something you def pondered over late.... but then probably brushed it off with a "I'm still fcking her anyway" kinda arrogant thing that pimps do. LMFAO...
ReplyDeleteIm just sayin!!!
funny. my bestfriend just went through this same thing.. she's was talking to a chick.. and the chick claimed to be single all while sending 'ilyous' and 'babes' across aim/myspace.
ReplyDeletemy best asks her and she's does exactly what the chick you know did... DOWNPLAY to the 3rd degree.
my best takes a gander at her phone. the there's a pick of them very confortable on her kick screensaver.
like Mimi said, there was a lil butt-hurtness.. maybe its because it was downplayed?
** excuse the long ass comment lol. **
I think as women we do downplay things in this type situation when we are not sure how things will turn out. Sounds to me she was keeping her options open.
ReplyDeleteShe may not have wanted to jinx things if it didn't come together the way she wished.
Her complaining is emotions spent, and she cannot get them back. THAT is a red flag of emotional attachment. Women everyday try to play the cool role that men have perfected, because it is a way of protecting the heart.
You don't seem to be wanting more due to how you act around her, so she didn't attach herself to you. The other guy may have given more that she could latch on to, even though it came with a few things she didn't like about him. But you were there as the listening ear.
You served a purpose, and you played that part. Maybe next go round you wont be so coy about a possible woman you can consider a mate...
But I am not sure what it is you can throw in her face, since you yourself downplayed a few things about your wants...
how ever it plays out... I get what you are saying...
but don't do that uninjured reserved kind of action when it comes to a lady who you think you really want.
that anon comment was mine =)
ReplyDeleteI'm saying though, you gotta respect her gangsa.
ReplyDeleteHow could she play it any other way, but cool? And if you and her just 'did whatever' then it really wasn't a big deal anyway that you saw them out together right?
Sounds to me, like maybe you took it out of context and maybe she wasn't downplaying dude as much as you thought she was.
Then again, if some time had passed and ya'll had fallen off, whos to say what really changed between the two of them
aight listen listen...lol...there were no feelings in the situation....
ReplyDelete-bettyboop, its ok to downplay things we all do it, but downplaying is not disrespecting the dude when "I" dont even ask questions about the situation, and she knew i could of cared less about their situation, like i said in the title i def. respected her game def. even b4 i started talking to her like that lol..
-bam- lol @ bam dont be sneakin thru with the annon. name lol...
-Phylisgirl- Ummm..i did respect her G, thats the title, i always crown a g female...thats y i keep girls around wit game to keep me on point lol...but it was more on the side she would disrespect the dude had him lookin' like a lame something terrible..if he only knew...
lol! brings back old memories...i use to play the same games! lol fun times, fun times. trust when you go to give her shit she will have a great story to tell! I'm happy she handled it like a champ!
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of Fuckery is this?? Do I smell a '6th man' H.??
ReplyDeleteFor what its worth tho, don't even clown ol girl about it lata cuz that would def give her the upper hand...
LMAO good you respected her game.
ReplyDelete"not that its a game but it sounds dope saying game"...lol thats my fave line in this blog. but yeah...smh people always downplaying shit! my girl did that shit when we first got together. I didnt know til later though...her guilt set in. she would go out and folk would ask is she single or is she bunned up, and she'd say "it's not that serious" or "im chillin"...knowing we were pretty much living together (now we actually do). it's like people are scared to admit when they're happy w/someone cuz they not ready to put their playa card down yet.
ReplyDeleteLol! I have to laugh at this one first.... Ok W. You have to respect her 'game' and maybe replay the situation in your head. Check it, you say she was 'downplayin' the situation and maybe even dissin' dude. So naturally, you were thinkin' dude is probably a Loser, which in all honesty at this point in is life he probably is...(Still has time to change) But seriously, I bet what she was really saying was "Dude pisses me off, cuz he does 'this and that', but maybe, if he changes 'this', I can handle 'that'..."
ReplyDeleteLike you said both of ya'll were single at the time, but truth be told you were her "Cutty Buddie" when she could catch up to you. But for real, for real, she was trying to catch up to him
So you mentioned that she became distant but for no particular reason...LOL... Dude there is always a reason. Seriously though, with her it's probably not a pride thing. With her she just pushed you to the side, but trust sweetie, if something goes wrong with dude, she'll make time to "check up on ya!"
She was most definitely smooth, and calculated, which a lot of females are. And I like that you are admitting it, because some dudes are so stuck on the game that they're trying to play, that they don't even realize that 'she just used them, abused them, kicked them to the curb, and is on to the next dude.'
But hey, this is just 1 females perspective...