Thursday, October 9, 2008

I HEART BEING SINGLE

"i cant settle down, one women just dont satisfy my needs"-Pharcity(unsigned artists from CT)




Being single, some of you may read this and have a lot to say, but i think if you can write from this point of view you have to have been in a serious relationship and you have to have been single enough to enjoy it.


People dont realize being in a relationship holds you back from alot. Dont you hate when you have to rush to go home because your girl is hounding you fellas? Ladies dont you hate when your boyfriend keeps textin' thinking you up to no good and you not? Fellas dont you hate when you in the club and see your old fling who was one of your top partners but you gotta go home to wifey? Ladies dont you hate when you meet a dude who will buy you anything expensive but you dont want your boyfriend to know because he gon think its more than that, and it really isnt!



Me, i did the relationship thing. I only had 3 relationships in my lifetime. 2 lived on the same street, and one was long distance. I love being single these days. I hate to be questioned if you not my girlfriend or investigating on me as if i have a committent with you. Now its rude to say it like that, and i can explain. My man Mwill had an away message up that i took asap "If you only trusted me i wouldnt lie". Guys hate to feel like they lying from the female especially when it is the truth.



I salute guys who are engaged or married around my age thats just tough. The way the world is today, Everybody cheats! Most guys dont wanna settledown until they are about 27,28. So ladies this is an fyi, if a guy cheats during the relationship and he is younger than that and you are in love with him. You have to cut him some slack, he is still growing up in a relationship manor. Dont be quick to say he "is not a man", he can still be a man its just he is not in a long term commitment without cheating yet.


Me, i dont trust no female, i will give my wife 88% of my trust. I watch maury, had sex with fiance's, watch cheaters, have good female friends who do sh** like a dude, etc etc etc. Im well trained and have a legitamate reason to not trust females. Even my best relationship which happend to be longterm. I did her wrong i cheated etc but in our confession time, guess what she confessed she had sex with her ex at a random time. So who lost? because mine was worst? My point is trust from William H. these days is hard to find. Dont get me wrong, she was a good girl its just i dont put nothing past no female. And if she happens to read this for the record Im not playing the victem, i said i was worst in the situation.


When you are in a relationship you miss out on many opportunitys, you start meeting connects that your partner might knock you for, you miss random vacations with the opposite sex that you know you would have fun, you out on casting call opportunities(nobody wants their mate to be on real world), you miss out on money opportunities, etc. etc. Relationships hold you back plenty of times.
Now fellas being single can cause alottttttttt of drama though, and i know we know this, because it can start off as a F**k, and she will know it, then she catch feelings, then next thing you know to start slippin' love up, and relationship talk etc etc. Females get crazy with that.
Be on the lookout for "being single, the soap opera" i will be doing more post diary-like form about my life with details which will be very interesting....
and for the record female viewers .........Im not 'not' looking for a girlfriend, if she comes, let her come, im here :-). H is very relational, and that will be the day the facebook gets canceled myspace gets remixed and the blog gets remixed and r.i.p the aim.....hahaaa(50 laugh)



22 comments:

  1. i agree folk..being single is great, but then theres nothing like being loved by that special female.

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  2. 1st time visitor....let me say this, i HATE being single! their is nothing fun about it, plus i'm 27 and would like to be married by the time i reach 30, so yes i'm worried and don't see the advantages of being single, who wants to sleep around, that is not the business, i have to much love to give away to be stuck holding it all in. :)

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  3. h, i agree with damn near everything you said with exception to 'everyone' cheats.. im very picky when it comes to who i wanna be in a 'relationship' with. if i feel like i need to cheat, i'll stay single. simple as that. i dont want anybody holding me bk, so im not gonna hold them back either. as long as i can trust dude, he respects me and our relationship.. we good. i dont care where he goes... i dont want anybody hangin any guilt trips over my head in the future.. about how they missed out on x,y, or z opportunity cuz of me..

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  4. thanx for checkin out my spot......

    showin some love back !!!!

    i kinda agree with you but well its kinda bittersweat to me...

    being in relationship

    PROS: do all the mushy stuff,come home to someone, loving someone that loves u back, having a family, cooking for someone, trusting in someone..... i mean shall i go on...

    CONS: all what u said!!! hahahahahah

    so i can feel you then again i want someone to do all that to me!!! i want my man to blow my phone up cuz he think im up to no good!! hahahaha


    ILL BE BACK

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  5. 1st time checking the blog...I love being single. This is coming from a female that's been in 3 serious relationships. I know the relationship side and the non committed side. For the most part I agree with you, but on some real guys can react and sometimes act worse than females in relationships. Not to mention, when you tell a guy that you're single and you're not looking for a man they assume that you're a "Lesbian"... But that's another topic.

    The best thing about being single to me is not having anyone to answer to, I get tired of guys asking "where you going, when you coming back, who you with"

    But on the Flip side, single to me means "no commitment" which means I am not committed to any guy. From my experience guys get caught up too. You go on a couple of dates with them, and they want to spend the rest of their lives with you, telling you what "ya'll kids gone look like' some str8 "crazy & derranged fellas"

    On another note if you find yourself being held back from opportunities when you're in a relationship then that person clearly isn't for you, because someone that's truly for you, is going to want you to spread your wings and fly no matter how far you may go.

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  6. sexxy luv- you basically graduated from the underage life lol, its bout to time to throw the jersey up...

    danielledenise- we talked about this in the club(aim) already, i said there will be 2 out of 10 that may be faithful...:-/

    the flyest- ummmmmm u can be single and do the mushy stuff sweetie ;)

    lyrik--well said...well said...

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  7. I hate being single. I'm just tired of it. I've been single for the past three years and I'm just ready to do something else for a change.

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  8. I have mixed emotions about this subject. I like doing all the stuff people do in a relationship. What I hate is explaining what im doing, where I'm goin ect.. I just started dating someone and I'll be like I'm gonna be outta town for the weekend & he's like "so now you outta town every weekend" NIGGA IF I WANNA BE!
    Thats the only part I hate and not being able to screw like a bunny!

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  9. I think the reason things are this way is because people think dysfunctional is functional.

    That is sad.

    That is why as a woman, I am not interested in marrying at all. I am content with dating or being friends, but too much is not ok to do that was once bonifide killers of relationships... people are accepting.

    The infidelity, the self hatred, the disrespect of each other, the childishness, the disease, the obsessions, the mental illness...

    Especially in the age where people are getting out of relationships by killing the other and then sometimes themselves...

    I can't see it.


    I am happy being alone and having people I am cool with.

    If God sends me someone.. then I may do so... but on my own strength I am good.

    Gas to high to be married or in a relationship lol

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  10. H, you done got me started on this one…First of all…let me jus say that I am getting a *little* bit tired of hearing all this relationships-are-the-devil nonsense! Lol yeah, a relationship can be work…but you go through the same “relationship” bullshit when you NOT in a relationship anyways. You tryna tell me girls don’t question you anyways jus cuz she *not* ya girlfriend? -Pleez! Of course she do…“who’s that girl on myspace…who you textin…where you going now…?” Cuz guys still question us no matter if they our man or not…and to top it off…they still feel like they can get mad at us. =/ Jus cuz you not a “boyfriend” don’t mean we not expectin’ “relational” behaviors from you. No girl wanna feel like a jump and even if they are a jump to you and they know it, you can’t make a girl feel like that’s all she is or she gonna keep it movin. Think about all the time and energy you spend tryna cater to all these chicks just to keep them around and happy since they *not* ya girlfriend…might as well you spent your time makin one girl happy then tryna make multiple girls happy…It’s no girl out there that’s not gonna eventually want that next level wit a guy she been f*kn wit cuz GIRLS CATCH FEELINGS. Sex can be an emotional thing for ladies…and if a guy lay down pipe well enough for us to keep comin back to you, don’t think we not catchin feelings…so you better be ready for drama if you still feelin that *single til I die* attitude. (And for guys that be stringin’ along girls for years, you better believe that that girl feel like you OWE her a relationship.) Yeah…relationships can be drama…but any relation…friends etc can be just as dramatic. -So to really talk all this mess about anti-relationships gets me thinking that anybody who feels this way must not have been ‘relatin’ wit the right person if you got that much negativity towards it.

    Lastly…you better go ’head wit all that ’girls cant be trusted.’ You right…some girls are just as bad as guys when it come to lying and creepin…but that’s definitely your guilty conscience talkin when you say that as a generalization cuz you know, and I know, that *not every girl is like that.* Jus like (somewhere in this world) it’s a man out there who’s not like that either…or so I hear lol. You can’t go through life not trustin no one, people! And if you f*kn wit someone who can’t be trusted then you shouldn’t be f*kn wit that person in the first place…

    Look…don’t let me see you, H, (or anyone else in this blog who agree wit H) all boo-boo’d out in the near future lol cuz you know damn well when you meet the right girl all that ‘H hearts being single’ bullsh**‘s goin out the damn window lmao…thaz all im sayinnn

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  11. i agree.
    i love the single life
    i do what i wanna when i wanna who i wanna.


    i'm only young once...might as well live it up

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  12. WOW sir. I expected more from you... can I write the female prespective on this?!?!?! You should have a guest spot. PLEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAASE. This post was cool... but VERY stereotypical. Who the hell hounds their man in texts anymore?

    Something to think abt... you know where I be son! :)

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  13. PS. I think all that... if im gonna cheat... Ill just stay single shit is a joke. The bottomline is... u havent come across the right person.

    Its as simple as the laws of opportunity cost. Economics 101 son.

    Never something for nothing. BUT Im talking too much. LATA!

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  14. Ok, ok. I just want to state that the reason why I love being single has nothing to do with relationship issues. I am 25yrs old, and I've been in some serious relationships. I've put in years, but the one thing I've learned about myself is that I get bored really quick, and once I get bored, I can wake up and tell you I don't want to be with you anymore. Right now I am truly experiencing the 'single life' for the first time, "no I'm not talking about that so called single before high school crap either." I have to explain to guys every other day why I'm not committing to them. I know first hand that relationships are hard work and when both people put the work in, it is great, but for real I'm woman enough to say "I don't feel like putting in the work" I know any real females up here that's been in a hardcore relationship, when you love the person, you go all out. I just want a break from that, and to just be able to enjoy me. Because truth be told, I don't want to be in my 30's and 40's in the club waiting for Mr. Right, or even jump in a relationship with somebody, and have regrets a couple years down the line. Right now I am getting to know me, and I don't think I can truly get to know myself if I'm pretending to be someone's wifey.

    With that being said, even though I am single, I try not lie to any guy. I think that Honesty is the best policy, but truthfully these dudes ask you questions, but they don't really want the real answer. Come on, you tell some dude you're talking to that you're going out with another dude, cause they asked, and they have tantrums like you're doing them wrong, when you hold no legal ties to them....Fellas if you don't really want the truth don't ask...

    Before I go I have to address BettyBoopbbw... Sweetie, life isn't that terrible and nor are relationships. No one should want to spend their life alone. I understand what you're saying, but nowadays people get married for the wrong reasons. Sex, money, kids, all types of craziness.

    But if as a woman you choose not to settle when it comes to your mate, then you won't really go through those hardcore problems. Ofcourse everyone makes mistakes, but that is life and people are supposed to learn from them. I honestly believe females know right off the back if the dude they're dealing with is scum, but for many reasons they hold on, whether it's because their sex/face game is all that, they have nice pockets, or they just have low selfesteem and they feel like the dude that they're with is the only dude that they can get. There is always a reason why you see females with those "lowlifes". But for real keep your head up, and just weed out all the scum bags, and the real dude will find you....

    On another note for all the females that are reading this blog, "If you don't love yourself, no dude is going to love you." Same for the fellas if a chick sense that you have "low self esteem" it's like an automatic sign on your back that says "Use me" and trust "You will get used"

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  15. Being single is a wonderful thing! My last serious relationship was almost 2 years ago and i really don't miss it!

    But I have to disagree with you a lil bit.. theres no real excuse for a dude cheating.. i tell it to a n*gga like this.. if you ever feel like you REALLY wanna venture off, tell me! Give me the option to be silly and stick around, don't spare my feelings.. im a big girl. Can't cut a dude slack for being dishonest..

    & depending on the person your in a relationship with you may not hav to miss out on those ops. A relationship isn't supposed to be prison..

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  16. princecess lola- lol @ screwing like a bunny, i love to hear females talk like that lol...


    Bettyboob - I AGREE..lol ....we on say page hun...;-)

    blazin143- lol...ay u know what, u right...u right..it all depends on the situation....thats deep though, i like the details...

    poison ivy- i dig..

    mimi- mimi you know i was gonna go in...but i cant put myself out there anymore, i wont be marketable on the blog tip lol...ladies wouldnt love me no more..lol...part 2 coming soon tho..

    lyrik-damn you right too lyrik, guys sometime cant take the truth...u went in again, u might need a blog..

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  17. I LOVE THIS BLOG TWIN!!

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  18. I love being single too. Who wants vanilla ice cream everyday? Some days you might want cookies & cream or butter pecan. Until I'm ready to settle down again and eat the same ole everyday I'm gonna enjoy myself.

    And it ain't about the trust factor it's about keeping me interested.

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  19. you have been reading my site....havent you. lol

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  20. LOL. Okay cool...
    BTW... BEAN aka BAM!Beano... is my chick!!

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  21. There is way too many AIDS HIV and STDs to be single nowadays. U can't even b a real freak anymore because of that, but sooo many people r. And that's disturbing. Its a new generation thing, people feel like they need to have to try any and everything and instead of really getting to know that ONE person, its pathetic. And someone said it best, the reason why most of everyone likes being single on this post is because u have NOT met the right person yet and/or u have been truly hurt....Jesus be a healing heart lol

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  22. BEING SINGLE IS KINDA FUN THAN AFTER WHILE IT GETS BORING..

    BUT I UNDERSTAND WHERE YOU COMING FROM

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